Happy New Year

To all my dear readers and subscribers of this blog, livepositiveway.com wishes a very happy new year

New year wishes

The above is the Black Forest cake, we cut to celebrate the new year. 

It sweetens the tongue to the maximum possible limit, and hence the heart if shared with loved ones, which is what exactly did by us.

Happy New year 2012

இனிய புத்தாண்டு நல்வாழ்த்துக்கள் 

Lots of love

Jagan K

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Long Distance Relationship Success Story - Guest Post

The following is the real life story of Mayen, blogger from filiphina who owns a blog Clicks and Cuts . I sincerely thank Mayen for writing her inspiring real life incident to be shared in this blog. And I am proud to share this to all of you, my dear readers. Many Thanks Mayen again fro writing this guest post to this blog.

Here is her Inspiring long distance relationship success story explained in her own words.

Love and Relationship

Hi there Finding Happiness readers. I am Mayen and I blog at clicks and cuts. I feel honored to be invited here to share my story. I was really nervous and a bit hesitant when my friend kikilabotz asked me to do this. I fear that my story is not inspiring enough. However, I cannot say no to this man. You already know the reason why. This guy is a charmer. So bear with me and I hope somehow I’ll be able to give inspiration today. Let’s start. Shall we?

Tell me something about yourself.

I am a Social Worker by profession, a blogger, aspiring writer and a novel lover. I am family oriented and a lover of romance. I love babies and I can’t wait to have my own. My ultimate dream is simple, so simple you might raise an eye brow. I just want to be an awesome wife and loving mother someday. I want to dedicate my life to make my own family happy. Just like what I got from my parents. (I sound lame. I hope I didn’t lose your appetite to read what I have to say)

Mayen

What is the greatest problem that you encountered?

-          My life is really not full of problems and I feel blessed about that. Financial maybe a major concern when I was growing up but my parents were really good that we haven’t felt being deprived of anything. I just realized it was hard for them then, when I was starting to earn on my own.  I can say that one major challenge life throw at me is the challenge I and my man is facing. Like I said I am a lover of anything romantic.

So when I fall in love. I really give my all.

I am in love with this guy, he’s name is Jed. We are in a relationship for almost 5 years now. We are both in marrying age. We so want to seal the deal soon, however, we haven’t saved enough for our future so he decided to go abroad to work and to save faster so that we can start our future together. Even though I was reluctant for him to leave, I agreed that we try the most feared situation for couples,

to embark in a long distance relationship, which we all know only few couples survived.

I was so used to him being around. When he left, I was disoriented. I miss him so bad. I cried day and night for almost three months. During those 3 months, I pour my emotions on my blog because I feel that sometimes my real life friends were already sick and tired of hearing my pointless agony.

What do you have in mind having this kind of problem? Is there a time that you think of giving up?

-          At first I was angry. I really feel I don’t deserve this. I am a nice person (so I thought). I always try to do what is right, so how come I have to face this? You see, my life is not really challenging before this. I feel like I can get away with anything. Life is simple for me. I am protected and pampered my whole life. I have my parents to thank for that. So when this challenge came,

I feel weak.  I become angry at Jed, blaming him for making me feel miserable, blaming him for leaving me and for choosing this kind of situation for us, as if I did not sign up for this.

Nonetheless, Jed is such a great guy that he tried to understand what was I going through. He’s been patient.

-          Yes, there were times when I was on the verge of giving up. Escaping this and giving up the person so dear to me seems to be an easy way out. I always want the easy way out because I am not used to feeling depressed. However, I cannot bring myself to do it. Somehow, I am still hopeful that it will work out.

What or who inspired you to pursue?

-          I don’t know exactly when was the time I feel I was okay about the whole set up. I’m sure though, that inspiring successful long distance stories I read on the internet and real life friends who went through the same set up and succeeded, was a lot of help. Encouraging comments from my new blogger friends was one factor I also consider helpful to retain my sunny disposition. The unconditional love and patience my partner showed me helped me accept the whole situation. The love and support of my family, not mocking me when I sit down at dinner crying, is one thing I will forever thankful for.

Above all, the love and strength my Creator showered me were too much to be ignored. He was there every step of the way. When I needed someone to talk to, He gave me awesome blogger friends and real life friends who really listen. When I needed inspiration He provided me stories that I can relate to and draw strength from. When I needed Jed to be strong for me, He made that possible.

So how did you surpass this problem?

-          Eventually, I realized that I was freaking selfish for blaming Jed of everything. I wasn’t making our situation easy, I was making it worst. When acceptance finally sinks in, everything went well. Suddenly, I was willing to make it work. I became confident that we can get through this alive and together. We were happy even if we’re not physically together every day. The sad part will always be there. The constant longing for real kisses and cuddles are still there but our love for each is stronger than any negative forces we encounter. We try our hardest to make it work. After some time, I was able to appreciate the set up and come up with perks that goes along with long distance relationship. It wasn’t all bad. You can find what I came with here.

What did you feel after you succeed in overcoming this problem?

-          I feel vindicated. I am happy. I am proud of myself and Jed because we succeeded in keeping our relationship. We proved ourselves and to the world that our love is true.

That being miles and miles and miles away from each other will never make us love each other less.

Also, I get to test his faithfulness to me and vice versa. He’s really a dependable and a loving person. I am so blessed I can call him my man. Our relationship is not perfect we both have our fair share of short comings that sometimes pisses each other off. But that’s all part of the game. Perfect relationship is boring. Besides, challenges in your relationships brought you closer together, most of the time.

Currently, we are together. He’s home for 45 days vacation. It is really short. Thus, we try to spend as much time together as possible. We recently visit Bohol, just the two of us and spent five amazing days there, catching up with each other. It was a trip we will both never forget because he proposed to me there. Yes, he formally asked my hand in marriage while we cruise on Luboc River. It was a simple yet sweet proposal. Something a romance-fanatic-girl like me ever dreamed of. If you want to read the full proposal story, jump over here 

-          I am so happy and proud to wear the symbol of his love. I’m sure every single girl wants a loving man and a free diamond ring all to herself. Am I right?

Can you share to us any life lesson that you have learned?

I have learned many life lessons in my existence but since we are on the topic of love and relationship let me share what I have learned on that note.

Finding your prince charming/dashing princess to love for the rest of your life wasn’t easy. Before you even get to him/her, you’ll get to test frog/frogs in the pond. I am lucky to just encounter one frog that broke my heart before I find my prince charming.  I know there are some of you who feel like you already tested all sorts of frogs yet, your princess/prince is still nowhere in sight. Don’t lose hope. I believe that those frogs are just there to give you experience where you can learn from to be a better person. You come across them so as you will not get bored while waiting for the right person. God has a sense of humor too. He’s not making fun of you He’s just amusing you. Being depressed and broken hearted isn’t funny if, only if, you’re in that situation right now. However, once that phase is over and you are finally in the arms of “The One”. I am positive that you will laugh how silly you were for feeling depress over something unworthy. God just need sometime so He can mold you and at the same time mold your prince/princess so that when you finally meet, both of you are ready for each other.  The longer you learn from your mistakes the longer it takes for you to find “the one”.

In one of my blog post I write this line.

Jed and I are still together not only because we love each other or we cannot live without one another (together or apart). Jed and I are still together because we have Him in our hearts. We are still here fighting this battle because we have Him to back us up.

By Him, I mean God. Put God in the center of everything we do. With his guidance and love everything will be bearable. If you have spare time, feel free to visit my blog. I will be happy to see you there. http://janemayen.blogspot.com/

Thank you kikilabotz, for the opportunity to share my story here. I hope somehow I was able to inspire your readers. I enjoy writing this for you and for your readers.

• Mayen

• Thank you so much Mayen, your story will surely inspire millions and millions  of lovers in the world who is engaged with the same situation as yours. God bless you and your relationship with Jed.  continue inspiring people.

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Let It GO - Motivational Lines

There are people who can walk away from you.And hear me when I tell you this! When people can walk away from you: let them walk. I don't want you to try to talk another person into staying with you, loving you, calling you, caring about you, coming tosee you, staying attached to you. I mean hang up the phone.

When people can walk away from you let them walk.Your destiny is never tied to anybody that left.People leave you because they are not joined to you.And if they are not joined to you, you can't make them stay.

Let them go.

And it doesn't mean that they are a bad person it just means that their part in the story is over. And you've got to know when people's part in your story is over so that you don't keep trying to raise the dead.. You've got to know when it's dead.

You've got to know when it's over. Let me tell you something.. I've got the gift of good-bye. It's the tenth spiritual gift, I believe in good-bye.. It's not that I'm hateful, it's that I'm faithful, and I know whatever God means for me to have He'll give it to me. And if it takes too much sweat I don't need it. Stop begging people to stay.

Let them go!!

If you are holding on to something that doesn't belong to you and was never intended for your life, then you need to......

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LET IT GO!!!

If you are holding on to past hurts and pains .......

LET IT GO!!!

If someone can't treat you right, love you back, and see your worth......

LET IT GO!!!

If someone has angered you.

LET IT GO!!!

If you are holding on to some thoughts of evil and revenge.....

LET IT GO!!!

If you are involved in a wrong relationship or addiction... ..

LET IT GO!!!

If you are holding on to a job that no longer meets your needs or talents

LET IT GO!!!

If you have a bad attitude.... ...

LET IT GO!!!

If you keep judging others to make yourself feel better......

LET IT GO!!!

If you're stuck in the past and God is trying to takeyou to a new level in Him.........

LET IT GO!!!

If you are struggling with the healing of a brokenrelationship. ....

LET IT GO!!!

If you keep trying to help someone who won't even try to help themselves.. ....

LET IT GO!!!

If you're feeling depressed and stressed ............

LET IT GO!!!

If there is a particular situation that you are so used to handling yourself and God is saying 'take your hands off of it,' then you need to......

LET IT GO!!!

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Be Good to Yourself - Inspiring Lines

Let your feelings be known.
They are important.

Express your opinions.
It's good to hear yourself talk.

Value your thinking.
You do it well.

Take the time and space you need.
Even if other people are wanting something from you.

When you need something, don't talk yourself out of it.
Even if you can't have it, it's ok to need.

When you are scared, let someone know.
Isolating yourself when you're scared makes it worse.

When you feel like running away,

let yourself feel the scare.
Think about what you fear will happen
and decide what you need to do.

When you're angry, let yourself feel the anger.

Decide what you want to do.
Just feel it, express it, or take some action.

When you're sad, think about what would be comforting.

When you're hurt, tell the person who hurt you.
Keeping it inside makes it grow.

When you have work to do and you don't want to do it,
Decide what really needs to be done and what can wait.

When you want somethingfrom someone else, ask.
You'll be okay if they say no.
Asking is being true to yourself.

When you need help, ask.
Trust people to say no if they don't want to give.

When people turn you down,
It usually has to do with them, and not with you.
Ask someone else for what you need.

When you feel alone, know there are people
who want to be with you.
Fantasize what it would be like to be with each of them.
Decide if you want to make that happen.

When you feel anxious, let yourself know that in your head.
You've moved into the future to something scary
And your body has gotten up the energy for it.

Come back to the present.

When you want to say something loving to someone,
go ahead.
Expressing your feeling is not a commitment

When someone yells at you, physically support yourself
By relaxing into your chair or putting your feet firmly on the floor.
Remember to breathe.
Think about the message they are trying to get across to you.

When you're harassing yourself, stop.
You do it when you need something.
Figure out what you need and get it.

When everything seems wrong,
You are overwhelmed and need some comforting.
Ask for it.
Afterwards, you can think about what you need to do.

When you want to talk to someone new and are scared,
breathe.
Don't start rehearsing, just plunge in.
If it doesn't go well, you can stop.

If you're doing something you don't like to do,
(such as smoking or overeating), Stop.
Think about what you really want.

If you're stuck and can't think clearly,
talk out loud to someone.

When you can't think straight,
Stop thinking. Feel.

When you're in need of love, reach out.
There are people who love you.

When you're confused, it's usually because you think you should
Do one thing and you want to do another.
Dialogue with yourself or present both sides to a friend.

When you feel harried, slow down.
Deliberately slow your breathing, your speech, and your movements.

When you have tears, cry.
When you feel like crying and it's not a safe place to cry,
Acknowledge your pain and promise yourself a good cry later.
Keep your promise.

When everything seems gray, look for color.

If one of these rules seems wrong for you, talk about it with someone.
Then, rewrite it so it fits you.
Remember, Be Good To Yourself!

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One Bedroom Flat - Written by Indian Software Engineer - A Bitter Reality

... As the dream of most parents I had acquired a degree in
Software Engineering and joined a company based in USA, the
land of braves and opportunity. When I arrived in the USA, it
was as if a dream had come true.

Here at last I was in the place where I want to be. I decided I
would be staying in this country for about Five years in which
time I would have earned enough money to settle down in India.

My father was a government employee and after his retirement,
the only asset he could acquire was a decent one bedroom flat.

I wanted to do some thing more than him. I started feeling
homesick and lonely as the time passed. I used to call home and
speak to my parents every week using cheap international phone
cards. Two years passed, two years of Burgers at McDonald's and
pizzas and discos and 2 years watching the foreign exchange
rate getting happy whenever the Rupee value went down.

Finally I decided to get married. Told my parents that I have
only 10 days of holidays and everything must be done within
these 10 days. I got my ticket booked in the cheapest flight.
Was jubilant and was actually enjoying hopping for gifts for
all my friends back home. If I miss anyone then there will be
talks. After reaching home I spent home one week going through
all the photographs of girls and as the time was getting
shorter I was forced to select one candidate.

In-laws told me, to my surprise, that I would have to get
married in 2-3 days, as I will not get anymore holidays. After
the marriage, it was time to return to USA, after giving some
money to my parents and telling the neighbors to look after
them, we returned to USA.

My wife enjoyed this country for about two months and then she
started feeling lonely. The frequency of calling India
increased to twice in a week sometimes 3 times a week. Our
savings started diminishing.

After two more years we started to
have kids. Two lovely kids, a boy and a girl, were gifted to us
by the almighty. Every time I spoke to my parents, they asked
me to come to India so that they can see their grand-children.

One Bedroom Flat - Written by Indian Software Enginee

Every year I decide to go to India... But part work part
monetary conditions prevented it. Years went by and visiting
India was a distant dream. Then suddenly one day I got a
message that my parents were seriously sick. I tried but I
couldn't get any holidays and thus could not go to India ... The
next message I got was my parents had passed away and as there
was no one to do the last rights the society members had done
whatever they could. I was depressed. My parents had passed
away without seeing their grand children.

After couple more years passed away, much to my children's
dislike and my wife's joy we returned to India to settle down.
I started to look for a suitable property, but to my dismay my
savings were short and the property prices had gone up during
all these years. I had to return to the USA...

My wife refused to come back with me and my children refused to
stay in India... My 2 children and I returned to USA after
promising my wife I would be back for good after two years.

Time passed by, my daughter decided to get married to an
American and my son was happy living in USA... I decided that
had enough and wound-up every thing and returned to India... I
had just enough money to buy a decent 02 bedroom flat in a
well-developed locality.

Now I am 60 years old and the only time I go out of the flat is
for the routine visit to the nearby temple. My faithful wife
has also left me and gone to the holy abode.

Sometimes

I wondered was it worth all this?

My father, even after staying in India,

Had a house to his name and I too have
the same nothing more.

I lost my parents and children for just ONE EXTRA BEDROOM.

Looking out from the window I see a lot of children dancing.
This damned cable TV has spoiled our new generation and these
children are losing their values and culture because of it. I
get occasional cards from my children asking I am alright. Well
at least they remember me.

Now perhaps after I die it will be the neighbors again who will
be performing my last rights, God Bless them.

But the question
still
remains 'was all this worth it?'

I am still searching for an answer.................!!!

START THINKING

IS IT JUST FOR ONE EXTRA BEDROOM???

LIFE IS BEYOND THIS .....DON'T JUST LEAVE YOUR LIFE & PARENTS ........
START LIVING IT .......
LIVE IT AS YOU WANT IT TO BE ....... BCZ LIFE IS PRECIOUS!!!!

 

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Delivering Happiness - Tony Hseish

How do you feel when you acquired as much of money you can't spend with in your life time?


For example how do you feel if you acquired 10,000 crore worth Indian money?


What could you do with all the money?


You could buy a million dollar mansion to live in
You could buy a world class car
You could buy a large television


Then?? 10 crore is enough to buy all the things are are in your mind right now. what will you do with the rest of the money??


Possessing the money that no one possibly can, will bring you happiness??


I don't know about you, but a man don't feel great after acquiring 10,000 crore in 1998. His name is Tony Hseish

He sold his company link exchange to microsoft for $265 million, and he wasn't feeling very great about it.


How he felt is described here in his own words from the book delivering happiness

Delivering happiness by Tony hseish

"I don't need more money, so what was it good for? I wasn't spending the money i already had. So why was i staying at microsoft, vesting in peace, trying to get more of it?


I made the list of the happiest periods in my life, and i realized that none of them involved money. I realized that building stuff and being creative and inventive made me happy. Connecting with a friend and talking through the entire night until the sun rose made me happy. Trick or treaitng in the middle school with a group of my closest friends made me happy. eating a baked potato after a swim meet made me happy."


The happiness of a millionaire involved no money. 


so people should realize that happiness of many richest people involved no money. So why should you fool yourself that you will be happy if you have more money? 


Happiness depends upon oneself. If you want to be happy, Just be

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My Perfect Girl

I love HER when she makes me cry
I love HER when she lies
I love HER when she's angry
I love HER when she misunderstood me
I love HER when we fight
I love HER when she sneaks out at night

Perfect Girl

I love HER when she comes home late
I love HER when she gives me headache
I love HER when she teases me
I love HER when she breaks my rule
I love HER when she shouts at me
I love HER when she makes me sad
I love HER when she makes me mad

I love HER when she makes me feel alone
I love HER when she's mad at me
I love HER when she choose his friends over me
I love HER when she do the things i hate
I love HER when she makes me wait
I LOVE HER 'CUZ SHE'S IMPERFECT...

and her IMPERFECTION made her.........MY PERFECT GIRL..... !!

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The Road to Happiness

 A forwarded message

When I travel on business, I like to talk to the taxi drivers who take me from the airport to my hotel, or to a convention center, or to a restaurant. Taxi drivers are often immigrants with interesting personal histories and unusual cultural backgrounds. I ask them how long they've been in America, how they chose which city to live in, and what they like best about where they live. Of course, I also ask them for advice on good local restaurants and any special attractions they'd recommend to a visitor. I've had some great experiences on my travels, thanks to the advice of taxi drivers!

On one trip about ten years ago, I was making conversation with the taxi driver, asking him my usual questions about how he came to live where he lived. Then I asked him a hypothetical question: "If you could live anywhere in the world-and if money was no object-where would you live?"

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Without hesitating even for a second, he replied, "I live in my heart. So it really doesn't matter where my body lives. If I am happy inside, then I live in paradise, no matter where my residence is."

I felt humbled and a little foolish for my question. Of course he was right-happiness is an inside job. He had reminded me of something I already knew, but had forgotten. If you can't find happiness inside yourself, you'll never find it in the outside world, no matter where you move. Wherever you go, there you are. You take yourself with you.

I am grateful for the wisdom of that taxi driver. And I'm grateful for all the wisdom others have shared with me about how to be happy.

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